My first date with Mr. Mazda was ok. Not amazing. Not terrible. Just two people out for dinner and drinks. The conversation was good but it mostly felt like two old friends catching up! It definitely missed that giddy nervous feeling you should have on a great first date.
Actually, the only moment triggering any emotion at all: his tapered jeans and bright white Nikes! I know. I wore a cute, dressed up, yet casual outfit with adorable heels and eyeliner(I don't normally like to fuss around with eyeliner but hey, it was a first date) And he wore athletic shoes. Yeah. I know. I'm judgemental. I can't help it. And I know how superficial that sounds....he was perfectly polite, asked questions, took interest in the answers, paid for dinner and drinks and more drinks.
Sissy pointed out today that letting superficial items such as tapered jeans and athletic shoes mold my opinion of a perfectly good man--Is crazy. (According to her, "those details can be worked out later"....just ask her fiance)
Sooooo, since I'm shamefully aware of my tendency to formulate snarky judgy-isms about people I've just met; I've agreed to go out again. It is highly likely that I've let the unfashionable pants/footwear sway my judgement on whether or not this guy may or may not be a keeper. Hopefully, Mr. Mazda can find appropriate datewear for our second outing...
Just to reiterate: I know how superficial and judgemental the contents of this post sounds. I thought about not posting about it at all, but then what's the point of blogging? I promise I will engage in many acts of kindness this week in hopes of restoring some decent karma in the world.
Sunday, January 11, 2009
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Tapered jeans AND athletic shoes?? Was he wearing a Starter Jacket too??? haha
Can't wait to hear what he shows up in next...but your sisters right, outwardly appearances CAN be changed...
no, no its ok for women to say that. Especially if ure already dressed up all nicely, I judged men I dated too :P but well lets see what he showed up with in 2nd date..
Yay for the date. That is fun (this is a response to your previous post). And now on to the judging. Don't feel bad. I do it too. It's just part of it. But don't let it skew your view of his personality because those are definitely details you can work out later. Speaking from experience here. FYI: In real estate, when some things need to be changed, but the house has potential, we say it has "good bones". Sounds like Mr. Mazda may have good bones. :)
My first instinct is to agree with you. I would definitely do a double take there, and once you got my jaw off the table and slapped me a few times, I might have been able to carry on. As my sister says, you can always train them. I haven't gotten to that point, but I think she's probably right, I mean, I saw the work she did on her hubby. Good luck!
Ohmygosh, shoes are VERY important! I think you really can tell a lot about a person by their shoes. Athletic shoes = bad news bears in my book! I just have something against athletic shoes in general (except at the gym).
Oh man, I wonder what he's going to wear on the 2nd date!
No No No, dont listen to your friend. The way he dresses is a crucial cue into his personality etc. Its important. trust your instincts.
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