This year has been a world wind of change for Hubs and I....well, mostly Hubs, my life is really the same with a few amazing additions—Hubs and Tyson. Oh, and a new little niece or nephew on the way but that really has nothing to do with this post about Hubs and I.
The only things that have really changed in my life since Hubs: not being able to sleep in the middle of the bed, my last name, and dad started ringing the doorbell instead of just coming on in (which by the way, I still think is stupid.)
Hubs on the other hand has turned his entire world upside-down---something I hadn't really thought about until this week...
We are dangerously close to closing on his house so we posted several things to sell on Craigslist insisting that everyone MUST pick up by Tuesday night. And then, we posted a "FREE Moving Sale" for Wednesday to encourage people to come and take the remaining stuff so we wouldn’t have to pay the "junk" people to haul it all off. After the 'sale' I think he felt a little violated; which I totally understand as I feel unsettled and a little violated when HUBS moves anything in the house (or garage for that matter.) And yes, I know it's a little bit of a double standard considering every time he brings something over I say, "where are going to put that!?" in my most annoyed wife voice but I can't imagine how hard it must have been to watch strangers rummage though the treasures of his life. Anyway, he was clearly down in the dumps a couple nights this week and I got to thinking about all the things in his life that have changed since we moved in together and how I would feel if the tables were turned (Keep in mind, I don't even like it when HUBS moves my phone charger from one plug in to the next--nevermind STRANGERS rummaging in my stuff (albeit unwanted stuff, but still, MY STUFF. Yes, I need therapy.)
I suppose in all relationships there is a time to purge old relationship stuff, ie. pictures, clothes, keepsakes ect. and make room for the new. But our union has caused a series of events that has basically transformed his world from what is was a year and a half year ago.
It started immediately, with the prompt removal of a tattoo (seriously, seeing an old girlfriend’s name tattooed on my husband (well, boyfriend at the time) for the rest of my life? No, thank you!), to selling his motorcycle to help pay for our (perfect) wedding, to trading his truck (and getting rid of those old personalized plates of his x-wife---bonus) for a new truck we bought together, and finally, the cherry on the top of the sundae, selling his house and finally getting to enjoy the spoils of a two income household!
I can’t imagine how I would feel if I had to sell my car, house, and most of my belonging to move into a home that requires me park outside in the snow during the winter and crawl into a car as hot as the Sahara Desert in the summer. But Hubs hasn’t complained once. He’s gone above and beyond to make sure I feel comfortable and secure in our life and love and I don’t think I tell him enough--I do notice, I have noticed, and I appreciate all he’s done to ensure I feel like the only women in his life (aside from his mother, of course :)
So, after the aforementioned items are done (closing on his house being the final task at hand) we will be free to enjoy our happy, healthy, and fart filled lives together without anymore 'previous relationship' red tape. Because really, nothing spoils a party quicker than having to confer with an x-wife on issues that have nothing to do with her....
Jokes aside? When you put all the red tape and nail biting (waiting for signatures) up against not being with Hubs at all---there is no comparison. I would put up with a lifetime of red tape and drama if it meant I could spend the rest of my life lying in bed, giggling, laughing, and sleeping in a pile with Hubs and Maggie and Tyson. I'm still trying to figure out how I got so lucky...
